I was wondering what your thoughs are about insensitive and misguided career advice: folks telling young people what they “should” do career wise. When I was young I received a lot of bad and discouraging advice that just “shot me down”. I was far too open to it because I was so in need of some kind of advice. All of my real interests were dismissed as “useless” by these self-styled tough-love “realists”.
Now as a counselor I do some career counseling, and I’m starting to hear this again: People who are young and not so young being ordered around by (well meaning?) others in regards to their career choices. I find some people near tears because they are so tired of being “pushed” by others in their lives. Like me, they stop being “open” to any input because so much of what they get is inconsiderate, aggressive, and useless.
What do you think people should say to this kind of intrusive advice? What do you think is the thought process behind this kind of insensitive and misguided advice?