I am an early years teacher and would like your expertise on this matter. I have a young girl in my class. She is 3 years and 9 months old and I have been talking to her mother in regards to her challenging behaviours. Her mother is not responsive and I have been attempting to get her a referral from the GP to a speech Therapist to help her with language.
Mum has asked her doctor and he said there is nothing wrong with her. Now the mother is angry and wants a sit down meeting to discuss what I obviously think is wrong with her child. I have lots of written reports which I can show her, but want to be really careful not to overwhelm her.
Here is a list of behaviours and development that I have noticed:
- Resistant to change often screaming and will refuse to wear a spare hat if hers is at home but can’t understand that we need to have another hat to play outside.
- Has a preference for male peers and often younger
- imitates the actions/behaviours of others
- clumsy gait
- randomly hugs strangers
- unaware of personal space
- affection is over the top at times
- pronoun reversal – even after explaining that Felicity is a girl so it is her hat will say his hat
- Will scream at peers and adults without provocation
- does not show concern when another child is hurt or sad
- has trouble following routines and directions
- has trouble sharing
- will push over a much younger child and does not like to talk about how that would make her/him feel
Do you think I should take the wait and see approach, rather then distress the family who are already defensive?