Relocating for Boyfriend
Recently my long-distance boyfriend of nearly 2 years and I have started talks about living to the same city. He is on one coast. I am on the other. My career field provides flexiblity, so thankfully, it is not as burdensome as it could be, and I do like his side of the country. What types of questions would you ask yourself if you were faced with moving across the country for a relationship and beginning everything over again, including your career?
In general, I’m a fan of relocating for a boyfriend. if you’ve invested two year in the relationship, and it’s still going well, someone has to move, and if you have the flexible career, you’re probably the one to do it.
Unlike men, women who want to have kids are under a deadline in their personal life — women need to find the guy they want to have kids with before their biological clock starts to explode. Here’s a post I’ve written about why women who want to have kids should put getting married ahead of getting a career.
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/06/01/get-married-first-then-focus-on-career/
So I don’t think a lot could go wrong with you deciding to move. If the relationship doesn’t work out, you seem to not mind living in the new city, and you can get a job there, so the risk you are taking by moving seems like a really good risk to take.
I hope he’s a good guy :)
Penelope
What do you suggest if one doesn’t have good job prospects in his area? And he’s also the one more settled. Would you advocate making the move even if it means working somewhere like Starbucks/McDonalds? (I’m not being snarky, I’m really curious)