I work for a luxury apparel company – great group of people, but I’m not being creative and I feel like life is on repeat….sitting in an uncomfortable chair, staring at google and and eating my ritual salad. I am so not a ritual person.

I’ve had lots of life experiences, lots of jobs. I’m just trying to figure out what I’m passionate about and where I fit in in the job world. Do you have tips or models on how to narrow down your field of work you want to be in? I feel like I have so many things I enjoy and want to explore and its completely overwhelming at times. Well, all the time. I’ve done the pros and cons list over and over again. I just can’t nail it down. Any advice on how to nail it would be so great.

Hi Penelope,

I have a dilemma about this topic: http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/19/blog-under-your-real-name-and-ignore-the-harassment/

The quandary is that I write about suicide.  Anonymously.  This allows me to protect my career and also avoid censoring myself.  Now that I’m gaining some readership and preparing to take my blog to the next level, I am concerned about never having a body of work to attach to my real name, because I’ve finally accepted that writing is the one thing I would regret not taking a shot at in this life.

So while it’s hard to ask, “What would you do if you were me?” because you write about taboo subjects all the time and accept the risk….what does one do if it’s all risk and extremely low potential for reward?  Start a completely different blog under my actual name with “safer” content?  Stay anonymous and continue to write what seems to matter to people, and worry about it later?  I have your words in mind:

“And one more thing. I have found that if I am nervous to post something—if I think I might look bad or reveal too much or give advice that people will hate—these are the posts that people care about, because they further my connection with people and further the conversation we’re having, and connection and conversation are the crux of linking.” 


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