What’s the deal with men pulling away in relationships?
Are some women more likely to want to have more social interaction/or want more social interaction than their partners/husbands at the end of the day or end of the week? And are some men more content to just not caring as much to the extent that some of their partners/wives do at the end of the week? Are they more likely to lean on their wives and maybe children because that’s enough of what they need, and during the week their career/job friends give enough to them — but maybe for some women that’s not enough?
I think what you’re really asking is about how people pick partners.
We have lots of data about how men and women choose each other. The choice is very primal (which is why being on the pill really messes women up). Here are the big three:
Smell
Spacing between eyes/nose/mouth
Testosterone levels
The testing for this is pretty good. For example if you blindfold women and give them tshirts of ten men and say who do you want to date, the women tend to pick one guy. The testing for testosterone is that women tend to pick man who are more logical than they are, and men tend to pick women who are less logical than they are.
So then the answer to your question is that in most couples the partners set it up so that whatever level of conversation the woman wants at the end of the day, the man wants less.
My boyfriend talks alot more than I do but often we will sit in living room watching TV or scrolling phones without talking that much in the evenings.
What I’m curious about is do we all expect more of eachother/ one person than they did in the past,with our interation with real life people getting smaller.
I think before we may have got more from community,friends or siblings so weren’t as reliant on our children or partner for company or to be interesting all the time.
It’s easy to become installed and not have alot to talk about .If off from part time jobs and don’t leave the house my only ‘news’ will be a celebrity died or some info from Facebook. In the past it was more about what the neighbours were doing or who you saw that day
This is such a profound observation. I think the constant relocation among families has stretched our ability to find connection. It’s abnormal to find people in each new city to connect with throughout our lives. It’s not how we evolved. So we don’t need to all be small-minded with limited human experience, but what we have now is too much. I think the massive travel and relocation will have to stop — for the environment but also for the human heart.
It may be forced on us through economic collapse. More interdependence because we will need each other to survive.
We won’t want to give up most of our comforts but we will have share resources/ help etc