Should I Lie In Social Situations?
I’m a 26 year old guy with Autism. A friend of mine introduced me to your site and I have been enjoying your articles- Thank you.
In many social interactions I run into, I find myself asking the question: “Should I lie like everyone else, or should I be honest and truly help them…or in most cases hurt their feelings.” … Sometimes I get asked questions for advice by a friend or something and I really try to help them with the situation where instead of getting help…they are just wanting to share with me. I obviously miss this most of the time and I have gone so far as to say, “Well do you really want my honest opinion of this?” Anyway, I’m not sure if I asked a question in there or if you get what I’m trying to communicate. I would just like some help with this situation.
Mostly people want you to listen to them. Give people credit that they can figure out their own problems if they have someone who has enough compassion to listen to them figure it out.
I tell you this, but I am terrible at doing it. Sometimes my husband will say, “I want you to listen now. Do not give me advice.”
Remember that just becuase you are smart about something doesn’t mean people want to hear that. I have to remind myself of that all the time. And, honestly, it is so disappointing to me.
Penelope