Also, as a woman in her late 20’s contemplating parenthood, the responsibilities of parenthood are daunting. The more I try to rationally consider whether or not to have children, the more confused am. Maybe this is a silly reaction.

I probably shouldn’t decide not to have kids because I might have to homeschool them someday, but I can’t help it. If you homeschool how do you have time for anything else? I saw my mom lose herself parenting my sister and me. I know if I decide to have kids I want to also take care of myself.

It all comes down to choices. I often think having all these damn choices is debilitating. Do you agree or think that’s just an excuse for inaction?

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  1. Penelope Trunk
    Penelope Trunk says:

    Having kids is not a rational decision. There is strong research that kids don’t make people happier (google marriage and Daniel Gilbert) and there is strong evidence that kids make marriage worse. Kids are expensive and difficult.

    So people have kids for irrational reasons. Kids are not bad. They are just a result of irrational thinkging that is in our DNA. If you don’t have that drive to have kids, then just don’t have them. That’s an easy decision.

    Penelope

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  2. Irene
    Irene says:

    But what if the drive comes and goes? Im afraid of waiting until is too late, after all there is a time span to have kids, after 35 figures are not very encouraging
    Daniel Gilbert also said that we usually regret the things that we didnt do more than the things we did. I dont feel it is an easy decision

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