Should I quit my job because of the obedience culture?
I wanted to move to San Francisco with my boyfriend, but we came to Boulder and lived with his parents instead so that I was not carrying the entire financial load while he rebuilt a career in SF, but I still want to spend time in SF and probably will spend some time back and forth. I like having time to be myself. I don’t know a lot of people here, so I’m trying to focus on the positives here of having a partner.
But I keep wanting to quit my job in marketing because it’s such an obedience culture and I can’t survive in it. What do you think? Any ideas?
I’ve never heard the term obedience culture. Maybe because no one would ever let me try it. But I see how people wouldn’t like it.
I think your job is a lot like your boyfriend in Boulder — good because the alternative isn’t that great. You’re right that you shouldn’t be the breadwinner for a boyfriend whose not serious. So giving him a chance to get on his feet is a good alternative. And I’m pretty sure if you don’t have obedience culture you have make-work-your-life culture. I think you are either making work your life so you can make your rules or you are not making work your life and following the rules.
In both cases, giving yourself a little more time to decide seems right. It’s easy to leave the guy or the job if it’s really terrible. But right now the two work together to give you a chance to see if you could have a life with a guy who earns the money and you don’t have to work.
Penelope